Got Frustration?

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Can I be honest with you?  I’ve been frustrated lately.  I’m frustrated professionally and personally.

Webster’s Dictionary defines frustration as

: a feeling of anger or annoyance caused by being unable to do something : the state of being frustrated

: something that causes feelings of anger and annoyance : something that frustrates someone

: the act of preventing the success of something : the act of frustrating something

Yup! That’s me, check, check and check.

Professionally, I’m frustrated because I’ve been sowing a lot of seeds and I’m not seeing any of them come to fruition. I’m not getting weary in well doing. But, I am feeling annoyed because I thought that surely by now I would see some growth.  I mean, certainly, when you do the right thing, at the right time, you get the right results.  Isn’t that how its supposed to happen?  So, what’s going on?  What’s the problem?

Personally, I’m frustrated because there are certain things that I want for myself that aren’t coming to pass. It feels like I continue having the same conversations, with the same people, making the same promises only for them to be broken.  Relationships that once uplifted and motivated me are beginning to drain and annoy me.

So, what do you do? When you’re annoyed, angry, disappointed and nothing seems to be working out the way you want it to when you know you’re doing everything that you know to do.  What do you when the very people that should be working with you continue to work against you?  How do you keep going when sometimes you just want to give up and throw in the towel?

You acknowledge your feelings, accept the situation and realize that this too shall pass.  You hold on and keep doing the right thing.  So, you will reap the reward…in due season. 

It may not be in your time.  But, it will be right on time.  And eventually, you will understand that the delay was not a denial.

Like so many other things in life, it’s easy to say but so much harder to do.  But, if you’re anything like me, you’ve come too far to give up now.  So, stick in there and keep living abundantly! 

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Hurting People

Life is funny.  People are even funnier.  I say that because, sometimes if you don’t laugh, you will cry.  It still amazes me how some people will judge, mistreat, use and abuse you.  It took me a long time to understand that when people do this, it has nothing to do with you.

Guess what?  Hurting people hurt people.  That’s right!  When people are hurt, in pain or unhappy.  They tend to transfer that to those they come into contact with.

So the next time someone talks about you, rolls their eyes or is just plain mean to you for no reason.  Say a prayer for them.  The struggle that they are dealing with is so much bigger than you.

Don’t repay their evil with evil.  Instead, offer them a smile, kind word or hug.  Why? Because that simple act of kindness can change someone’s life.

And, that’s how you continue living abundantly 🙂

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Marriage

As I continue living abundantly, God continues to ask me to trust Him.  With that, comes the need to get out of my comfort zone and share my life.  It amazes me how difficult this is for me.  However, I realize that my life is not my own.  So, here goes…..

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This picture is from our Wedding day.   Every time I see this photo, the feelings and emotions from that day come rushing back.  This day was the beginning of our “Happily Ever After.”

Like so many people, we believed in the fairy tale.  Then, one day, all of that changed.  My Prince Charming turned into the Beast.  And to be fair, I’m sure that he would say that his Cinderella turned into the Wicked Witch.

We stopped loving each other and began loathing each other.  As two imperfect people, we stopped focusing on our commitment and began focusing on ourselves.  This led to an all out war.  After various battles and struggles, our “we” turned into “I.”

I was tired.  I was frustrated.  I no longer wanted to sacrifice or compromise.  I had had enough drama to last me a lifetime.  Besides, I deserved to be happy.  So, I was done.

However, when you’re done with your marriage, there are a lot of decisions that have to be made.  How do you divide two lives that have became one?  How do you equally split assets and finances?  How do you go from waking up to your sweet munchkins every day to seeing them 3 days a week and every other weekend?

The struggle was real.  However, it was during that struggle that the most beautiful thing happened.  I gained wisdom, knowledge and strength.  I gained an understanding and closer walk with the Lord.

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I had an epiphany.  It is impossible for two imperfect people to maintain each other’s joy and happiness.  Besides, why would I want to place that burden on someone else?  I am responsible for the gift of my life, regardless of my marital status.

As I was going through this transformation, the Hubs was going through his own.  God had touched his heart too.  He began to see the beauty in the struggle.  Our pain, tears and hate began to turn into joy, laughter and love.

So, the “I” began to turn into “we.”  We wanted to see God’s Promises come to pass.  We wanted to have a testimony.  We wanted our marriage to last for better…and worse.

We know that the road will not always be easy.  However, we are determined to travel it together.  And, we’ll be living abundantly every step of the way!

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Will You Let It Go?

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Once upon a time, there was a little girl who absolutely adored her Daddy.  One special day, he gave her an imitation pearl necklace.  Oh my, how she loved that necklace.  So much so, she wore it everywhere she went.

One day, her Daddy came to her and asked if he could have it.  She immediately cried, “Oh no Daddy, this is mine. It’s my favorite.”  Her Dad simply said, “okay” and walked away.  The second day, the Dad came to his daughter again.  “Honey, can I please have that necklace.”  The little girl exclaimed, “No Daddy no, this is my favorite necklace.”  Her Dad hung his head low and walked away.

Finally on the third day, the Dad came to his daughter and asked could he have the necklace. Seeing the look in her Daddy’s eyes and the love that she had for him.  She relented and said, “Daddy, if it means that much to you, even though it’s my favorite, you can have it.”  Her Dad took the necklace.  As the little girl turned to walk away, he tapped her on her shoulder.  As she turned to face her Daddy, her eyes rested on the most beautiful pearl necklace that she had ever seen.

How many times has God asked you for your imitation pearls?  How many times have you told Him no?  Often times, we have to let go of the imitation, so we can grasp hold of what is real.  Are you ready to let it go?  If so, do it…don’t wait any longer.  Who knows what He will replace it with.  Now, that’s what I call living abundantly!